tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1186544673922960059.post5385269629695790672..comments2023-08-22T09:22:44.446-04:00Comments on Mothering Many Feet: Janet Fraser To the woman at the shops with the weeping babeMomofmanyfeethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04910767765118018084noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1186544673922960059.post-44887181755597111632011-08-31T15:35:57.825-04:002011-08-31T15:35:57.825-04:00I tried leaving one and she didn't approve it....I tried leaving one and she didn't approve it. I think she came here and saw the type of website I have and deleted it!The Non-Monogamisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11264015273869697097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1186544673922960059.post-27072896171366381732011-08-31T13:44:04.150-04:002011-08-31T13:44:04.150-04:00Update - I did go back and look and see if my comm...Update - I did go back and look and see if my comment to Janet didn't make it through moderation and nope, it didn't make it. She deleted it without posting it. But she did post one where a woman said that Janet had jumped to conclusions and maybe the woman WAS a good mother, etc. But that comment didn't say anything about bonding well with an infant despite having life-saving interventions. Maybe it's because I indirectly called her on "playing the victim" and she thought that was mean.Urbancowgrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15860022294549771879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1186544673922960059.post-86859883384428108932011-08-30T22:50:12.397-04:002011-08-30T22:50:12.397-04:00I'll be curious to see if my comment will make...I'll be curious to see if my comment will make it through moderation. I may forget to check because I'm sick and having lots of medical tests done so if you happen to check and see it wasn't posted let me know, please! Here is the comment:<br /><br />"It bothers me to hear newborn babies crying too. Even more so when their mother’s don’t respond (especially while shopping for clothes – ick!)<br /><br />But what bothers me too is the assumption about this woman’s birth. How do you know she too didn’t have a natural homebirth? Of people I know who’ve had homebirths I’ve seen both good and negligent/self-absorbed mothers. The same is true for people I know who have hospital births. I had my baby in a hospital by emergency c-section and didn’t even get to set eyes on her for five hours after she was born because she was on a respirator in NICU because she couldn’t breathe on her own. It was upsetting until she was brought to me, breathing on her own finally, alive and destined to be the healthy, energetic child she is now. I’ve never felt anything but gratitude for the interventions that saved my babies life. I have brought her up with attachment parenting and seven years later we have a very strong bond between us and I’m happy to say she is beautiful, healthy, loving and very compassionate towards others. So, I really don’t see how what happens at birth matters to how one bonds with or mothers their baby. It seems like what matters is what happens the minute that newborn is in your arms and where we all choose to go from there – as opposed to claiming to be victims of circumstances that are sometimes out of our control. A truly empowered woman could say “My birth experience wasn’t what I wanted, but I’m going to rise above it and bond with my baby and be the best mother I can be because I am not a victim here!”Urbancowgrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15860022294549771879noreply@blogger.com