Friday, November 18, 2011

My Birth Stories-- Child #1

I am going to be doing a series sharing with you all my various labor/birth stories over the next few weeks. I feel that, in order to really understand me, I should share with you all. All in all, they really aren't too bad and I'm thankful for the lessons I have learned along the way. I think I may even share the story of my second miscarriage in the hopes that maybe it can help someone else. 

When I got pregnant with my oldest in 1997 when I was 17 years old. I took Lamaze, but unfortunately, only got three classes in before I went into preterm labor. We had only left at 8pm on wednesday and my water broke at 1:30am. I was 36 weeks exact. Of course, when your water breaks and it just trickles, you wonder, "was that my water or is it me". So, I waited for a few hours until I was finally convinced that my water had broke. I had also begun feeling weird little things and they were 6 minutes apart. I tried waking up my fiancee, but he just said to let him know when they were 5 minutes apart because he was convinced I wet myself. At 6:30am, I convinced him that this was it and we needed to go to the hospital. Before we left, I called my step-grandmother to get the hospitals number so I could check with them. Called them and they did say to come in. Of course, my fiancee threw on his work clothes because he still wasn't convinced (Yes, the man is stubborn, lol). 

Get to the hospital and get checked. Yep, water broke and was just trickling. I think we got there about 7am. Contractions weren't regular or doing anything and were pretty painless. My doctor figured it would be good to just break my water more. Fiancee went ahead to work so I just sat chatting with nurses. At one point, I was concerned about my long nails scratching my baby so the nurse found me some fingernail clippers! The doctor ordered some pitocin to help me along. Then my fiancee came back from work. The family he was working for was very old fashioned. so he had never shared my pregnancy with them until that day, and was promptly told to go be with me. Unfortunately, with my water being broken, I was losing too much fluid, so I got to have an internal catheter placed. Fun times!! The labor was quite painful, but with the help of my fiancee and nurses, I was able to breathe and focus on what I was doing. At one point they had to place an electrode in my son's scalp because he seemed to be having some trouble. The pitocin was increased and decreased throughout the day. 

Around 7:45pm, I asked for an epidural. Got that and was able to rest. It was nice. Around 10:00pm, I was complete and began pushing. Epidural was turned off so I could feel everything. THAT was awesome (Can you sense the sarcasm??)!! Around 11:30, the doctor had to do an emergency c-section on another mom and, due to the decels my son kept having, he let me know if I didn't have him out soon, I would have to have one as well. When he came back to my room, he had to hurry up and don his outfit so he could catch my son. I was given an episiotomy too. After my son's head came out, the doctor found that the cord was around his neck three times. He was delivered blue and limp. He was handed off to a resus team and then taken to the NICU. 

On top of my son's cord, his newborn exam found that he had a Ventricular Septal Defect. C was in the NICU until sunday when he was released. Monday, we were back at the hospital to check bilirubin levels and weight. Tuesday morning, same. Shortly after my stepmother took me home, she came back because the doctor had called and let us know C needed readmitted. We spent 3 more days in the nicu. Luckily, the hospital hooked us up with a private room and I was able to nurse and pump for him.

 I continued to pump for two months until I got tired of it and put him back on the breast, where he stayed until he was 16 months old. We also supplemented from 5 months on. He was such a great baby and a total Momma's Boy!! 

My Birth Stories-- Child #1

I am going to be doing a series sharing with you all my various labor/birth stories over the next few weeks. I feel that, in order to really understand me, I should share with you all. All in all, they really aren't too bad and I'm thankful for the lessons I have learned along the way. I think I may even share the story of my second miscarriage in the hopes that maybe it can help someone else. 

When I got pregnant with my oldest in 1997 when I was 17 years old. I took Lamaze, but unfortunately, only got three classes in before I went into preterm labor. We had only left at 8pm on wednesday and my water broke at 1:30am. I was 36 weeks exact. Of course, when your water breaks and it just trickles, you wonder, "was that my water or is it me". So, I waited for a few hours until I was finally convinced that my water had broke. I had also begun feeling weird little things and they were 6 minutes apart. I tried waking up my fiancee, but he just said to let him know when they were 5 minutes apart because he was convinced I wet myself. At 6:30am, I convinced him that this was it and we needed to go to the hospital. Before we left, I called my step-grandmother to get the hospitals number so I could check with them. Called them and they did say to come in. Of course, my fiancee threw on his work clothes because he still wasn't convinced (Yes, the man is stubborn, lol). 

Get to the hospital and get checked. Yep, water broke and was just trickling. I think we got there about 7am. Contractions weren't regular or doing anything and were pretty painless. My doctor figured it would be good to just break my water more. Fiancee went ahead to work so I just sat chatting with nurses. At one point, I was concerned about my long nails scratching my baby so the nurse found me some fingernail clippers! The doctor ordered some pitocin to help me along. Then my fiancee came back from work. The family he was working for was very old fashioned. so he had never shared my pregnancy with them until that day, and was promptly told to go be with me. Unfortunately, with my water being broken, I was losing too much fluid, so I got to have an internal catheter placed. Fun times!! The labor was quite painful, but with the help of my fiancee and nurses, I was able to breathe and focus on what I was doing. At one point they had to place an electrode in my son's scalp because he seemed to be having some trouble. The pitocin was increased and decreased throughout the day. 

Around 7:45pm, I asked for an epidural. Got that and was able to rest. It was nice. Around 10:00pm, I was complete and began pushing. Epidural was turned off so I could feel everything. THAT was awesome (Can you sense the sarcasm??)!! Around 11:30, the doctor had to do an emergency c-section on another mom and, due to the decels my son kept having, he let me know if I didn't have him out soon, I would have to have one as well. When he came back to my room, he had to hurry up and don his outfit so he could catch my son. I was given an episiotomy too. After my son's head came out, the doctor found that the cord was around his neck three times. He was delivered blue and limp. He was handed off to a resus team and then taken to the NICU. 

On top of my son's cord, his newborn exam found that he had a Ventricular Septal Defect. C was in the NICU until sunday when he was released. Monday, we were back at the hospital to check bilirubin levels and weight. Tuesday morning, same. Shortly after my stepmother took me home, she came back because the doctor had called and let us know C needed readmitted. We spent 3 more days in the nicu. Luckily, the hospital hooked us up with a private room and I was able to nurse and pump for him.

 I continued to pump for two months until I got tired of it and put him back on the breast, where he stayed until he was 16 months old. We also supplemented from 5 months on. He was such a great baby and a total Momma's Boy!! 

Friday, November 11, 2011

Planning a Safe Homebirth- The Mother

Part II of Jane Hall's post Planning a Safe Homebirth::


So, you've found a great midwife who has impeccable education, a level of experience that you're confident in, a well run practice and she is well respected in her community for the standard of care offered?  Great!  You've managed the hardest part of planning a safe home birth, and can be assured that you have the safest attendant for birth in an out of hospital setting. 

Bottom Line:  While planning and having lots of resources and ideas for birth is a great idea, ultimately birth is something that you react to as it unfolds, not something you control and tell how to go.  Sometimes it is better to choose a small intervention earlier than to risk needing a bigger intervention later, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with deciding before, during or after birth that your needs are best met in ways that might not fit the "Crunchy Bible" but which will make for your best and most compassionate birth even if it's not the "most natural" one possible.

Here are things to consider in planning for your safe home birth:

1.  Know beforehand what hospital you would be transferring to should you need a higher level of care, and pre-register there.  Know how you're going to get to a hospital in an emergency (including emergency plans for immediate care for any other children at home), and make sure that you go over with your midwife under what situations you should call 911 immediately before labor, during labor and in the early postpartum period instead of calling her to come to attend you.

2.  In a situation planning a home birth, I would recommend accepting more testing than I might otherwise choose in a hospital birth setting because I want as much information as possible when making the choice to have a baby where there isn't a NICU down the hall.  Here are some common tests and why I think they're especially important in a home birth setting:

*  A dating ultrasound helps make sure that you are completely solid in terms finding the safe parameters for home birth, both on the earlier side and the later side. 
*  The Quad Screen is a screening test that identifies whether you are at increased risk for certain conditions.  It is not a test that "only matters if you're willing to have an abortion."  If a quad screen comes up with increased risk of neural tube defect, some neural tube defects can be treated in utero through surgery and early identification is helpful.  I would not choose to have a child with Downs Syndrome born at home because of the increased risk of heart defects that accompanies Downs, and having the concrete risk numbers to looks at makes for a more informed and more confident choice.
* An 18-20 week anatomy ultrasound can identify issues that make out of hospital birth dangerous for mother or child.  It can identify the rare cases where a baby's birth defect makes vaginal birth extremely risky, and can identify potential issues with that would threaten the mother's health as well, including issues with the placenta. 
* The glucose tolerance test is far from perfect, but gestational diabetes is real and it does result in many complications including an increased risk of pre-eclampsia, lungs that are slower to mature, excess amniotic fluid, low blood sugar for the baby immediately after birth and a real increased risk of stillbirth.  Identifying and treating gestational diabetes *is* important. 
*  Appropriate monitoring after your due date is critical in preventing stillbirth.  Work with your midwife to determine an appropriate schedule for non-stress tests and biophysical profiles.
*  Be prepared for induction of labor at 42 weeks, and be confident that getting that dating ultrasound way back in the first trimester will make sure that you are not jumping the gun earlier than necessary or risking going too late. 

3.  When it comes to a specific birth plan writing time, I encourage you to be flexible and to focus less on "natural" birth and more about having a birth that sets you off on the best footing to enjoy your first few days treasuring your baby.  Some fairly small interventions can make a big difference to you and your baby, including:

*  Group B Strep testing and treatment:  1 out of every 200 women who are positive for Group B Strep will have a baby become ill from Group B Strep disease.  Antibiotics decreases the risk of Group B Strep disease so that your chance becomes 1 in several thousand, not 1 in 200.  Part of safe home birth is knowing your GBS status, and appropriate treatment to prevent transmission to your baby.  There is no reason for antibiotics to keep you from being able to labor in a tub or in whatever positions you're most comfortable in.
*  Active management of 3rd stage:  After having a baby, you can use all of the energy you can get to recover and enjoy your babymoon.  Anemia from post partum hemorrhage is not worth risking to avoid one shot of pitocin, and waiting until you're already bleeding (ie. "physiological management of 3rd stage") means that you will be losing blood until the medication has a chance to kick in.  Active Management of 3rd stage, including every woman getting anti-bleeding medications, is actually a World Health Organization recommendation with solid evidence to support it. 

4.  Know when to call it quits:  Sometimes you *can* have a home birth but not without significant cost or risk to yourself and your baby.  The only safe home birth is the home birth that can be quickly abandoned when the needs of mom and baby are best met by being in a more advanced setting, and that doesn't just mean for dire, lights blaring emergencies.  Be willing to make the soft calls where technically you could "suck it up" and follow the Crunchy Bible but where doing so will put an additional burden on you that you don't need to carry. 

It's ok...
* to find out that this particular labor is way more painful than you anticipated and that you don't want to do it without medication 
* to have been really sick the whole week before labor strikes and be so dehydrated that you need fluids and rest
* to be exhausted by the demands of a particularly labor with no clear end in sight, and transfer for pain medication and for possible cesarean birth
* to have a bad PPH and transfer for a blood transfusion
* to decide that you want an MD to repair any tearing
* to have had a really really hard labor and be exhausted enough that you ask your partner to give your newborn a bottle of infant formula so you can sleep for 6 hours straight

None of those choices make you a bad mother or a wimp, or in any way compromise how beautiful birth is.  Some births demand more from us as mothers, and there is no shame or weakness in choosing to take advantage of the very safe resources that medical technology has to offer.  Birth is a miracle in any setting, and there is no intervention, no test, no procedure, or no safe choice in birth that makes it any less miraculous to welcome a new person into your life and into your family. 

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