As I sit back and read various mommy message boards, I witness hordes of women clamoring over the virtues of vaginal birth. Only those who have pushed a baby out of their vagina have given birth. Dangerous vaginal birth is preferred over ceasarean birth. Breech baby??? You can do it. Big baby??? Your body won't grow a child you cannot birth! If the baby is in distress, you must get up and move around. Cord tightly around neck is not a problem either. Failure to progress is always about a mom not given the appropriate time allowance.
In the days before c-section was used, mothers and babies died. The almighty vagina will not prevent injury or death to your child. A c-section can. So, why must women push the limits and put their child in harms way? Vaginal birth does not make us any more of a woman or a mother. If you have carried your child and they came out of your body, you have given birth. Having a child that you love makes you a mother, not your almighty vagina.
so true. took the death of my own baby during birth (even though i had birthed vaginally THREE times before) for me to understand this truth.
ReplyDeletei hope lots of mamas read this and get it.
Totally agree with you! A woman who has a baby is a mother. Simple as that.
ReplyDeleteCame over from BBC -- I had my DS via emergency c-section and I am having a scheduled one with this lil one.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry for your loss.
Um, what about the risk of cesarean? That puts your child at risk as well.
ReplyDeleteI gladly chose the risk of c-section to get my baby out.
ReplyDeleteI am just as much a mother, and just as much gave birth to that boy as anyone else who used their mighty vaginia.
I had a c-section due to my water breaking and not progressing past a 1 despite being on Pit all day. Me and my doctor felt the risk of infection outweighed the risk of a routine c.
ReplyDeletePretty sure my baby, who is asleep in his swing, makes me every bit as much of a mom as those who gave birth vaginally.
I had a VBA2C (in an "evil" hospital with an "evil" OB, GASP!) and while the recovery was a lot easier, I don't love that baby anymore than my "evil" c/s babies.
ReplyDeleteOh, and let's not forget that if I hadn't transferred from my attempted HBAC and had that "evil" c/s, that baby would have most certainly died. As it was, 72 hours of labor nearly killed a baby that was seriously fragile because of a massive stroke to begin with, and now my daughter will live her entire life disabled because of the decisions I made.
My hospital VBA2C went great, but I still second guess that decision. I sure as hell wouldn't feel good about it if I had ruptured and my daughter had died.