As I sit back and read various mommy message boards, I witness hordes of women clamoring over the virtues of vaginal birth. Only those who have pushed a baby out of their vagina have given birth. Dangerous vaginal birth is preferred over ceasarean birth. Breech baby??? You can do it. Big baby??? Your body won't grow a child you cannot birth! If the baby is in distress, you must get up and move around. Cord tightly around neck is not a problem either. Failure to progress is always about a mom not given the appropriate time allowance.
In the days before c-section was used, mothers and babies died. The almighty vagina will not prevent injury or death to your child. A c-section can. So, why must women push the limits and put their child in harms way? Vaginal birth does not make us any more of a woman or a mother. If you have carried your child and they came out of your body, you have given birth. Having a child that you love makes you a mother, not your almighty vagina.
7 comments:
so true. took the death of my own baby during birth (even though i had birthed vaginally THREE times before) for me to understand this truth.
i hope lots of mamas read this and get it.
Totally agree with you! A woman who has a baby is a mother. Simple as that.
Came over from BBC -- I had my DS via emergency c-section and I am having a scheduled one with this lil one.
I am sorry for your loss.
Um, what about the risk of cesarean? That puts your child at risk as well.
I gladly chose the risk of c-section to get my baby out.
I am just as much a mother, and just as much gave birth to that boy as anyone else who used their mighty vaginia.
I had a c-section due to my water breaking and not progressing past a 1 despite being on Pit all day. Me and my doctor felt the risk of infection outweighed the risk of a routine c.
Pretty sure my baby, who is asleep in his swing, makes me every bit as much of a mom as those who gave birth vaginally.
I had a VBA2C (in an "evil" hospital with an "evil" OB, GASP!) and while the recovery was a lot easier, I don't love that baby anymore than my "evil" c/s babies.
Oh, and let's not forget that if I hadn't transferred from my attempted HBAC and had that "evil" c/s, that baby would have most certainly died. As it was, 72 hours of labor nearly killed a baby that was seriously fragile because of a massive stroke to begin with, and now my daughter will live her entire life disabled because of the decisions I made.
My hospital VBA2C went great, but I still second guess that decision. I sure as hell wouldn't feel good about it if I had ruptured and my daughter had died.
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