Sunday, April 7, 2013

Midwives and Personal Responsibility- LOL

In my last post, I touched on how parents are thrown the "personal responsibility" line if their baby dies. Now, let's look at personal responsibility of midwives. I wish I could say I have proof of a midwife accepting "personal responsibility" for her actions in loss, but sadly, I don't have a single thing to offer, What I do have to offer is proof of midwives not accepting responsibility for a loss.

"They needed love and time to heal---not to be angry at my witch hunting state for going after me when their precious one would never have made it no matter what." - Kristi Smith Zittle *

IOW, baby would of died anyways and parents need to heal, not worry about that pesky state getting involved with their baby's death.

"Everyone needs to "blame" someone so we don't have to take a look at the final truth. With ALL of our lives will come death. ALL of us will die. It is a matter of when, how and if we are surrounded in love. I'm going to take a break from this because it has taken such a detour. How about instead of blame we work together to make sure we, as women and human beings, are not further stripped of our rights to make choices and live and raise our families the best we know how." Aspiring homebirth Midwife

*IOW, death happens, let's keep up the fight*

"When a person does all that any human being can do to save a baby's life, then what are they 'accountable' for? DOING EVERYTHING THEY CAN DO is all that any one can do!"Not every doc or every hospital or every midwife can save every baby. Some babies are too damaged from something which happens in the womb or in labor; something which is no one's fault; something which is undetectable, unpreventable and treatable. It is usually not the doctors fault when a baby is lost. It is usually not the midwife's or mother's fault either. except for the very rare event of incorrect medication given, it is almost 'never' someones FAULT if a baby is lost. No mistakes were made. Everyone involved did their best.That is usually fact."- Gail Hart

*IOW* Doctors cause medication deaths, but it's almost never anyone's fault, let alone a midwife's because she did her best*

"And shame on every midwife that has contacted me (numerous) to overtly suggest that I should rethink my support of this midwife. My heart is breaking over this kind of peer level persecution."- Kathi Valeii, speaking about the arrest of Rowan Bailey

These are a few of many, many comments absolving midwives of all Personal Responsibility. Looking at the Sisters in Chains list, you see nothing but support for "persecuted" midwives, ie midwives who screwed up. It blows my mind that the same crowd who crows about parents who lose their babies taking "personal responsibility", but do we see a single midwife taking "personal responsibility"? In the last, roughly, 5 years, I have yet to see a single midwife with a death under her belt accepting responsibility for her negligent actions. No, they go on like nothing happened and when asked about that baby, they lie and concoct stories. This persecution thing is, frankly, bullshit. Instead of looking at us and screaming "personal responsibility", how about we look at our "sisters in chains" and look at the amount of destruction that is left in their wake. Personal responsibility means owning up to your mistakes. This means paying your own bail and your own attorney. This means admitting that you messed up. We already look at ourselves and admit, "I screwed up. I shouldn't of had that homebirth or should of chosen a different midwife". This does not mean "The baby died because of this or that". You look at your actions to see if you could of missed anything or done something that contributed to the death. Walking away like nothing ever happened isn't personal responsibility. Crying "persecution" isn't personal responsibility. Crying "witch hunt" isn't personal responsibility. I'm thinking that those who use that term towards the parents need to learn exactly what it means and hold their midwives to the same standard, after all, they ARE supposed to be the professional.

1 comment:

areawoman said...

The support from the homebirth midwifery community for negligent midwives makes me sick.

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