Yep, you're right!

If you hang around all the little mommy blogs, you will see one thing, make that two things they have in common. Most are natural mothering blogs. And then you NEVER see any disagreeing! Why doesn't any woman disagree?? Simple answer- they do, but NCB bloggers love to practice in the art of delete and ban.

Let's look at Birth Without Fear. Why does she delete and ban? When she was promoting 44 week gestation's, a woman dared to remind her that there was a reason doctors induce for post-dates. On another post asking about VBAC, one woman said to talk to an OB.

In Service To Women deleted and banned many of us for asking about the families who lost their babies due to Karen Carr and not supporting her.

Anti-vaccination sites delete and ban regularly if you question them or say something that doesn't make sense (see this post).

Mamas and Babies banned yours truly for saying a child with severe allergies, whose meds weren't working, should go to their pediatrician. Guess I should of agreed with acupuncturist or chiropractor, huh??

I have a ban threat looming over my head from none other than Henci Goer for daring to question her!! I do find this comical!

If they are right and have no problem screaming from the rooftops about how awesome they are, they should be able to handle opposing voices. If you are right, defend your position, don't just delete someone because you can't handle it. Here, I have people that swing in and give their opposing statements. Cool. I have never deleted a single comment and I won't, no matter what. I think having your ideals challenged is good for you. I also think that we need to accept that not everyone feels the same as we do, that's life. Not everyone will be kissing your behind all your life. If you are a parent that cannot handle opposing opinions, then may I suggest selling your computers and phones and moving to the middle of nowhere?? You may also want to reconsider having children as they are notorious for questioning us and having different opinions, esp preteens and teenagers. It kind of goes along with the whole being a parent thing. 

Yep, you're right!

If you hang around all the little mommy blogs, you will see one thing, make that two things they have in common. Most are natural mothering blogs. And then you NEVER see any disagreeing! Why doesn't any woman disagree?? Simple answer- they do, but NCB bloggers love to practice in the art of delete and ban.

Let's look at Birth Without Fear. Why does she delete and ban? When she was promoting 44 week gestation's, a woman dared to remind her that there was a reason doctors induce for post-dates. On another post asking about VBAC, one woman said to talk to an OB.

In Service To Women deleted and banned many of us for asking about the families who lost their babies due to Karen Carr and not supporting her.

Anti-vaccination sites delete and ban regularly if you question them or say something that doesn't make sense (see this post).

Mamas and Babies banned yours truly for saying a child with severe allergies, whose meds weren't working, should go to their pediatrician. Guess I should of agreed with acupuncturist or chiropractor, huh??

I have a ban threat looming over my head from none other than Henci Goer for daring to question her!! I do find this comical!

If they are right and have no problem screaming from the rooftops about how awesome they are, they should be able to handle opposing voices. If you are right, defend your position, don't just delete someone because you can't handle it. Here, I have people that swing in and give their opposing statements. Cool. I have never deleted a single comment and I won't, no matter what. I think having your ideals challenged is good for you. I also think that we need to accept that not everyone feels the same as we do, that's life. Not everyone will be kissing your behind all your life. If you are a parent that cannot handle opposing opinions, then may I suggest selling your computers and phones and moving to the middle of nowhere?? You may also want to reconsider having children as they are notorious for questioning us and having different opinions, esp preteens and teenagers. It kind of goes along with the whole being a parent thing. 

We don't need insurance!

If you read my last post, I discussed why malpractice insurance is important and what it covers. Today, let's look at non-CNM Midwives and why they don't carry insurance.

I give you EXHIBIT A

In other Words,  She will try to be your best friend so that you will not turn on her. You will be emotionally and mentally manipulated by her so if there is a bad outcome, she can control your reaction. 

EXHIBIT B

CITIZENS FOR MIDWIFERY

Essentially, malpractice insurance is just a way that lawyers and insurance companies get to make money while trying to decrease the number of homebirth midwives. It's a conspiracy!!

EXHIBIT C

MOTHERING

1. Insurance dictates protocols and it's not evidence based.

2. Lawyers just want to sue you.

3. It's expensive.

  

MOTHERING AGAIN

1. Deep pockets attract lawsuits.

2. Midwife relationships exceed those of OB/Client relationships.

3. If a midwife offers support and choices they have a smaller chance of being sued. 

4. Protocols screw women and families.

 EXHIBIT D

HEALTH KNOWLEDGE

1. Clients can go to the regulating board.

2. Greedy Lawyers treat you like a target.

3. They don't want to risk their family/job/livlihood in order to compensate for an injured baby.

4. Birth is risky. 

EXHIBIT E

CARLA HARTLEY

1. They will not do anything to get themselves sued.

2. Clients are responsible for their birth including anything done by the midwife

3. If a client asks about malpractice insurance, they get fired or told to shop around.

4. The insurance company owns you.

5. You are more likely to be sued. 

6. Midwives have to increase fees

7. People will mistakingly think an insured midwife is better. 

I only had enough stomach to get these few links. Many things about these pages bother me. 

Midwifery is supposed to mean "with woman". When you don't care about the woman or child you are caring for, you are not "with woman". You are "with oneself".  Interestingly, I googled the term "with oneself" and a Narcissism page came up. What is narcissism?? 

According to wikipedia- Narcissism is the personality trait of egotism, vanity, conceit, or simple selfishness. Applied to a social group, it is sometimes used to denote elitism or an indifference to the plight of others.  

Egotism is "characterized by an exaggerated estimate of one's intellect, ability, importance, appearance, wit, or other valued personal characteristics"^[1] – the drive to maintain and enhance favorable views of oneself. CHECK

In conventional parlance, vanity is the excessive belief in one's own abilities or attractiveness to others CHECK

conceit (countable and uncountable; plural conceits)

1. (uncountable) Overly high self-esteem; vain pride; hubris.
2. (obsolete) Something conceived in the mind; a conception; a notion; an idea; a thought.
3. (countable) A novel or fanciful idea; a whim.
4. (countable, rhetoric, literature) A device of analogy consisting of an extended metaphor.
5. CHECK

Elitism is the belief or attitude that some individuals, who form an elite — a select group of people with intellect, wealth, specialized training or experience, or other distinctive attributes — are those whose views on a matter are to be taken the most seriously or carry the most weight; whose views and/or actions are most likely to be constructive to society as a whole; or whose extraordinary skills, abilities or wisdom render them especially fit to govern   CHECK

So, Non-CNM's are Narcissistic!! That explains quite a bit. 

CPM's/DEM's/LM's do NOT want malpractice insurance because they don't want someone telling them that a high risk client should not be having a homebirth. They don't want it because they don't want to pay for it. They are counting on clients who will just accept that "babies just die" because they have "taken responsibility for their own birth. They don't want clients who want a provider who carries insurance. They don't care whether or not a baby dies or is injured. They are only concerned with themselves. 

Can you show me anywhere that justifies lack of malpractice insurance where they are actually looking out for clients?? Do you see where they are willing to place themselves aside?? The "I'll just be the best midwife I can" line is ridiculous. If you think that your midwife spends all this time with you and really cares so deeply for you/your family, you are dead wrong. If they do not want to be responsible in their practice, they really do not care about you/your family. Oh, they do care that you get a choice if you are high risk. Your babies health, not even a blip on their radar. If they are conniving enough to want to hide assets to prevent anyone from being able to sue them, then they are placing themselves above clients. Midwifery is "with woman", not above or more important than. WITH. 

Reading all of this tonight has me even more convinced that midwives do what they do because they care about themselves. If they cared about women and babies, they would have top notch educations, practice SAFELY (this means no high risk home deliveries), and carry insurance. It saddens me to see such horrid attitudes from midwives. I reallky understand why Brenda flipped the way she did. I wasn't the client who said "Ok, it's not your fault, babies just die. Let's be BFF's". I was the client who was pissed and I still am! My daughter mattered to me. She still does. So, I will keep fighting for her and all the babies out there whose lives are at risk because their parents stick to Non-CNM's.