Are natural mommy bloggers attention whores??

I confess, I love to going to some mommy blogs and do follow Facebook pages. One thing I am seeing regularly is these controversial bloggers having a huge drama-fest where they have to suddenly close their stuff down and leave only to come back up just a day to a few days later. They leave long enough that their followers get all in a tissy and are falling over themselves. Those of us who watch these "reruns" recognize them for what they are and that is a publicity stunt. The followers are posting all over their walls and on other blogs and freaking out thinking the blog or wall has been removed by the man (because you know facebook and blogger are in bed with the ACOG/big pharma). We also know that some facebook pages DO push the envelope posting things that are against facebook terms then whining when it's removed. It amazes me how attention whorish some bloggers are. It also amazes me to see how weak and whiny these followers are. They completely depend on these bloggers for all their information from breastfeeding to circumcision to childbirth to car seats. Every word is hung on. If the blogger says it, it is right. Course, we rarely see anyone questioning the bloggers high powers, but, we also know they do not tolerate their beliefs being questioned so they rely upon delete and ban.

I do have to wonder how any of these women think they are educated if all they do is hang on the words of mommy bloggers? We all kno mommy bloggers don't usually rely upon real research. They rely upon what the  "NCB Gods" say and what they have done. If they have a vaginal breech homebirth, it is totally safe for everyone. If they have a UBA2C and it turns out well, it's perfectly safe for everyone. If they had GBS, used garlic, and their baby didn't get sick then it's proof that garlic works and GBS is totally safe. It is scary to see the following behind these uneducated morons. How many dead babies occur because of this misinformation?? As a blogger, esp one with a large following, I believe you have a duty to pass on ACCURATE information to those reading your blog, not saying "I did it, so it's safe. Please emulate me"! You know what, if a woman following you has a baby die because they listened to you, you do have that baby's death on your shoulders. Let's say I told a mom and gave her a few links saying it was safe to forward face your 6 month old and it was only illegal because of "The man" trying to oppress us- then she gets in an accident and her baby dies- it would be MY fault for knowingly giving her inaccurate information. Does that make sense??

 Now, if you follow a mommy blogger just because you enjoy her, that's totally different! The bloggers I have linked here are blogs I enjoy! I need to add a few more for your entertainment!

Are natural mommy bloggers attention whores??

I confess, I love to going to some mommy blogs and do follow Facebook pages. One thing I am seeing regularly is these controversial bloggers having a huge drama-fest where they have to suddenly close their stuff down and leave only to come back up just a day to a few days later. They leave long enough that their followers get all in a tissy and are falling over themselves. Those of us who watch these "reruns" recognize them for what they are and that is a publicity stunt. The followers are posting all over their walls and on other blogs and freaking out thinking the blog or wall has been removed by the man (because you know facebook and blogger are in bed with the ACOG/big pharma). We also know that some facebook pages DO push the envelope posting things that are against facebook terms then whining when it's removed. It amazes me how attention whorish some bloggers are. It also amazes me to see how weak and whiny these followers are. They completely depend on these bloggers for all their information from breastfeeding to circumcision to childbirth to car seats. Every word is hung on. If the blogger says it, it is right. Course, we rarely see anyone questioning the bloggers high powers, but, we also know they do not tolerate their beliefs being questioned so they rely upon delete and ban.

I do have to wonder how any of these women think they are educated if all they do is hang on the words of mommy bloggers? We all kno mommy bloggers don't usually rely upon real research. They rely upon what the  "NCB Gods" say and what they have done. If they have a vaginal breech homebirth, it is totally safe for everyone. If they have a UBA2C and it turns out well, it's perfectly safe for everyone. If they had GBS, used garlic, and their baby didn't get sick then it's proof that garlic works and GBS is totally safe. It is scary to see the following behind these uneducated morons. How many dead babies occur because of this misinformation?? As a blogger, esp one with a large following, I believe you have a duty to pass on ACCURATE information to those reading your blog, not saying "I did it, so it's safe. Please emulate me"! You know what, if a woman following you has a baby die because they listened to you, you do have that baby's death on your shoulders. Let's say I told a mom and gave her a few links saying it was safe to forward face your 6 month old and it was only illegal because of "The man" trying to oppress us- then she gets in an accident and her baby dies- it would be MY fault for knowingly giving her inaccurate information. Does that make sense??

 Now, if you follow a mommy blogger just because you enjoy her, that's totally different! The bloggers I have linked here are blogs I enjoy! I need to add a few more for your entertainment!

Facebook page created

The page is called SafEST Homebirth. I should be able to get a blog up and going here very soon and will place the link here and on Safest's wall. So, join up, and tell others. Let's show people that safe homebirth practices are important. No more of this every woman can do it, everything is "a variation of normal", uneducated midwives know everything and are to be desired (*gah*) crap. It's still odd for me that I've come full circle almost. I know this idea may not be popular amongst others, but, I'm willing to put myself out there. Oh, we won't support midwives who negligently take lives and sure as heck aren't going to blame parents!! If you are a CNM or CM, please join up, I would love to have you there! Let's see if we can't blow these other blogs/pages out of the water.

Here is The new blog!

Facebook page created

The page is called SafEST Homebirth. I should be able to get a blog up and going here very soon and will place the link here and on Safest's wall. So, join up, and tell others. Let's show people that safe homebirth practices are important. No more of this every woman can do it, everything is "a variation of normal", uneducated midwives know everything and are to be desired (*gah*) crap. It's still odd for me that I've come full circle almost. I know this idea may not be popular amongst others, but, I'm willing to put myself out there. Oh, we won't support midwives who negligently take lives and sure as heck aren't going to blame parents!! If you are a CNM or CM, please join up, I would love to have you there! Let's see if we can't blow these other blogs/pages out of the water.

Here is The new blog!

Coming soon

I will be creating a facebook page dealing with Homebirth Safety. Yes, it will support homebirth and how to do it SAFELY. Safety is one of the subjects that are sorely lacking in the community and they should be addressed. No more telling a mom that it's safe to have a HBA2C or it's safe to decline GBS testing or safe to stick garlic in your vagina. We will NOT endorse or support anything less than a CNM or CM. We will endorse midwives that we know practice safely and adhere to strict standards so that mothers know they are getting the best. There will be a blog that will consist of midwife names and other information about them.

If you are a CNM or CM who would like to be featured on the new blog, you can email me at momofmanyfeet at yahoo dot com. Feel free to share things such as Why you got into midwifery, thoughts on birth, your educational background, work experience, high risk situations you have dealt with and how you handled them, transfer rates, number of births, number of lost babies, and basically anything else you would want a mother to know before choosing your practice!!

Coming soon

I will be creating a facebook page dealing with Homebirth Safety. Yes, it will support homebirth and how to do it SAFELY. Safety is one of the subjects that are sorely lacking in the community and they should be addressed. No more telling a mom that it's safe to have a HBA2C or it's safe to decline GBS testing or safe to stick garlic in your vagina. We will NOT endorse or support anything less than a CNM or CM. We will endorse midwives that we know practice safely and adhere to strict standards so that mothers know they are getting the best. There will be a blog that will consist of midwife names and other information about them.

If you are a CNM or CM who would like to be featured on the new blog, you can email me at momofmanyfeet at yahoo dot com. Feel free to share things such as Why you got into midwifery, thoughts on birth, your educational background, work experience, high risk situations you have dealt with and how you handled them, transfer rates, number of births, number of lost babies, and basically anything else you would want a mother to know before choosing your practice!!

Facebook group for homebirth loss moms

If you are a mother who planned a homebirth and lost your child, you are welcome to join us at Homebirth Loss Moms. Place of birth does not matter.

We need somewhere to be able to talk about our losses without feeling ostracized. Homebirth supporters love to turn the tables on us and find some reason as to why our child would of died anyway or as to how it is your fault. We live with enough guilt and they don't understand that! If you are vocal about opinion changes on mothering, you are watched and your posts will be deleted if they are not supportive of homebirth or midwives. You become hated and frankly, it's bull shit! We don't deserve that. We deserve as much support as anyone who has a death due to a dr/hospital. They take off and run with stories of dr negligence and death, but get pissed when it has to do with a midwife or homebirth. Their anecdotal evidence matters, but ours doesn't?? Now, how does that make sense? They can use all the scare tactics and horror stories as they can pull out of their ass while we have to sit down and shut up. PUHLEASE! The hypocrisy is pathetic. I'm tired of seeing women like us treated badly. I'm tired of them trying to silence us. I'm tired of them trying to tell us that our babies would of died anyways. I'm tired of seeing infant losses as just something that happens that is unpreventable. MY child's death WAS preventable if it wasn't for the fact that I had a homebirth with a grossly negligent midwife. I was and still am incredibly angry. I probably always will be. On top of that, I get to carry around the guilt of knowing that my choice killed my child. After 2+ years, I still cannot get past the guilt I carry. I can't even talk about it because I break down! This isn't your typical sadness break down, this is full out, "my chest is closing in, I cannot breathe" break down. It's very difficult to live with and I think if the hardcore HB advocates had a loss like this, they would feel the same.

Facebook group for homebirth loss moms

If you are a mother who planned a homebirth and lost your child, you are welcome to join us at Homebirth Loss Moms. Place of birth does not matter.

We need somewhere to be able to talk about our losses without feeling ostracized. Homebirth supporters love to turn the tables on us and find some reason as to why our child would of died anyway or as to how it is your fault. We live with enough guilt and they don't understand that! If you are vocal about opinion changes on mothering, you are watched and your posts will be deleted if they are not supportive of homebirth or midwives. You become hated and frankly, it's bull shit! We don't deserve that. We deserve as much support as anyone who has a death due to a dr/hospital. They take off and run with stories of dr negligence and death, but get pissed when it has to do with a midwife or homebirth. Their anecdotal evidence matters, but ours doesn't?? Now, how does that make sense? They can use all the scare tactics and horror stories as they can pull out of their ass while we have to sit down and shut up. PUHLEASE! The hypocrisy is pathetic. I'm tired of seeing women like us treated badly. I'm tired of them trying to silence us. I'm tired of them trying to tell us that our babies would of died anyways. I'm tired of seeing infant losses as just something that happens that is unpreventable. MY child's death WAS preventable if it wasn't for the fact that I had a homebirth with a grossly negligent midwife. I was and still am incredibly angry. I probably always will be. On top of that, I get to carry around the guilt of knowing that my choice killed my child. After 2+ years, I still cannot get past the guilt I carry. I can't even talk about it because I break down! This isn't your typical sadness break down, this is full out, "my chest is closing in, I cannot breathe" break down. It's very difficult to live with and I think if the hardcore HB advocates had a loss like this, they would feel the same.